At Davi Law Group, our blog serves as a resource to answer questions and provide information and updates about family and divorce law in Illinois. We address issues related to child custody, parental rights, and adoption to help our readers understand the legal processes involved. Here, we look back at 10 blogs that our readers found most useful in 2020:

1. How Does a Sex Offender Conviction Impact My Parental Rights? - We discuss possible restrictions on parenting time and decision-making due to a parent’s criminal sex offense conviction.
2. DCFS Investigations in Illinois - What Are Your Rights And How Can You Protect Them? - We help parents understand the process of an investigation by the Illinois Department of Children and Family Services and how they can protect their parental rights.
3. Illinois Divorce Basics: How Long Will You Receive Alimony Payments? - We explain how the amount and duration of alimony or spousal support are calculated according to Illinois law.
4. Emancipation of Minors in Illinois - We look at situations in which a child under the age of 18 can pursue independence from their parents.
5. Terminating Parental Rights in Illinois - We discuss the criteria for declaring a parent unfit and terminating their rights, particularly during the adoption process.
6. 5 Things to Get “Right” When a Guardian Ad Litem Has Been Appointed to Your Child Custody Case - We outline the role of a Guardian Ad Litem or child representative in family court and discuss how parents should handle interactions with them.
7. A Guide to Adult Adoptions in Illinois - We walk through the process and requirements for legally adopting a person over the age of 18 in Illinois.
8. Who Has Custody Over Your Child If There Is No Court Order? - We answer the complicated question of how custody rights are handled in cases of child abduction when parents are unmarried and have not established a custody order in court.
9. Marriage Basics: How to Get a Marriage License in DuPage County Illinois - We provide information for DuPage County couples regarding how, when, and where they can obtain a license to marry.
10. What Are Grandparent Rights in Illinois? - We look at cases in which a child’s grandparents and certain other relatives can petition for custody and visitation rights.

Contact a DuPage County Family Law Attorney

We hope you benefit from the information found in our blogs, and we are available for a free initial consultation when you are looking for qualified legal advice specific to your case and an attorney who can advocate strongly on your behalf. Contact our Wheaton family lawyers today by calling 630-580-6373.

While most parents only want what is best for their children, there are those who are more focused on “winning” than the child’s best interest. Some may even go so far as to commit parental alienation. In today’s post, you will learn more about parental alienation, including how to determine if your child may be a victim, and what actions can be taken to protect the child. 

What is Parental Alienation?

Minor issues, such as arguments in front of the kids and ill-spoken words are fairly common in the initial stages of a divorce or separation. Though still harmful, these negative behaviors typically dissipate over time. Each parent heals from their grief or anger, sees the nature of their wrongs, and strives to improve for the benefit of the child. 

Parental alienation is different, specifically in terms of severity and the long-term continuance of the offending parent’s poor behavior. Their reasons behind it are varied (i.e. a need or desire to control, fear of losing the child’s love or affection, wanting to hurt or get even with the other parent), but the results are often devastatingly similar. The child suffers mentally and emotionally and, as a result, they may develop maladjustment issues, such as an identity crisis, depression, or even outright hatred toward a parent that they once loved dearly. 

When parents divorce, they must prioritize what is best for their children. More often than not, this means that each parent should stay emotionally and physically involved in their child’s day-to-day life. How do you do that while living in separate households? In most cases, the details are outlined in a document known as a parenting plan. 

What is a Parenting Plan?

Parenting plans are legal court documents that are used to outline each parent’s roles and responsibilities as it pertains to meeting the needs of their child. 

What is Included in a Parenting Plan? 

Parenting plans cover more than just parenting time allotment. Designed to address all the needs of a child during the divorce, parenting plans cover a host of child-related issues, including:

Most parents are aware that divorce could negatively impact their child; it is why so many are hesitant to call it quits on their marriage. Still, studies show that a tumultuous home environment is more damaging to a child. As such, parents are encouraged to understand how and why a divorce might cause issues for their child. It also helps to have a plan in place.

Understanding the How and Why

Although divorce can negatively affect all children, the biggest risk seems to apply to those who are “well off” prior to the split. More specifically, adolescents whose mothers have a college education were found to be most impacted by parental divorce in a recent study conducted by Sondre Aasan Nilsen of the Norwegian Research Centre (NORCE) and the University of Bergen, Norway, and colleagues. On average, their GPAs were 0.3 points lower than peers with intact families from the same socioeconomic class. Previous research has also indicated that well-off children are less likely to attend college after a parental divorce.

Perhaps children from lower socioeconomic classes show less impact, simply because they are already less likely to excel in school or attend college, or maybe well-off children are ill-prepared for divorce because they have not suffered as much disappointment and heartache as children from lower socioeconomic classes. Whatever the cause, it is middle-class parents (and above) who most need a plan for minimizing the risk of poor academic performance in their child.

Although divorce can be difficult for all involved parties, children tend to suffer the most. Much of this is due to their position in the situation. They do not have any control or choice; they must simply deal with the fact that their family has fractured and try to adjust. Learn how you can help them through the process by reviewing these three things that your child wants you to know. 

They Need to Express Their Emotions in a Healthy Way 

Parents are often afraid to talk too much about their divorce. Some even go so far as to avoid the subject entirely, perhaps out of fear that their child may not be able to handle the difficult situation. Unfortunately, ignoring the problem does not help the child. If anything, it could cause them to bury their feelings. 

A lot of children also blame themselves for the divorce. As a result, the child may be at risk for depression, anxiety, behavioral problems, and other maladjustment issues. Thankfully, by giving your child a safe space to express and talk about their emotions, you can reduce their risk of such problems.