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Guarding Against the Underhanded Tactics of a Vengeful Spouse During an Illinois Divorce

Wheaton divorce lawyerMost divorcing couples realize that compromise is the least difficult path in a divorce. Sadly, there are those who will stop at nothing to “get even” or get what they want. Take a divorcing Oklahoma woman’s situation for example. 

During a meeting with her husband to sign paperwork for their divorce, he allegedly handed her a drugged cup of coffee. While it took her a while to realize that something was “off,” she ultimately discovered that she had been drugged after taking an over-the-counter drug test.

At that time, she also realized that their 3-month-old baby had been breastfed three times since consuming the coffee. She voluntarily took the baby to the hospital to ensure its safety, and she reported the incident to the police. The woman then pressed criminal charges and sought a restraining order against her husband to ensure the future safety or herself and her child. 

Woman and Child Could Have Suffered a Terrible Fate

While the woman ultimately thwarted her husband’s intentions, the outcome of her situation could have gone quite differently if she had not noticed the drugging. For example, the husband might have tried to use the drugging as a ploy to gain custody of the child. 

After making false allegations of drug abuse against the mother, the father could have filed a motion to request that she submit to drug testing. Not knowing she had drugs in her system, she likely would have agreed to the testing. Then, when she and the baby tested positive, the authorities may have removed the child from the mother’s home and placed him or her with the father, or into protective custody until the child’s fate could be determined by the courts. Either way, the mother and her child would have been separated - all because of a vengeful spouse. 

Protecting Yourself from a Vengeful Spouse 

The Oklahoma woman’s situation is not entirely unique. All across the country, there are vengeful spouses who will stop at nothing to get what they want. Sometimes, all they want is to make their partner suffer. Other times, they want something specific, such as a particular asset or custody of a child or children. Either way, at-risk parties are encouraged to protect themselves from the actions of a vengeful spouse during their divorce. Do this by: 

  • Only meeting with your spouse when your attorney is present;
  • Not accepting any gifts or acts of kindness that seem out of character for your spouse;
  • Avoiding all verbal forms of contact with the spouse;
  • Documenting all details that may be pertinent to the divorce;
  • Keeping receipts to document any money given or received (especially if that payment is meant to benefit the child);
  • Disengaging from conversations and situations when it feels like your spouse is trying to get a reaction or create conflict; and
  • Ensuring you have seasoned legal assistance during your Illinois divorce. 

Contact Our DuPage County Divorce Lawyers

If you have reason to believe that you are dealing with a vengeful spouse, contact Davi Law Group, LLC for immediate assistance. Committed to ensuring that you and your children experience the most favorable outcome possible in your case, our skilled Wheaton divorce attorneys can aggressively protect your interests, right from the very start. Schedule your consultation by calling 630-580-6373 today. 


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