Divorcing a Narcissist: A Survival Guide

 Posted on April 12, 2022 in Divorce

The term “narcissist” technically refers to an individual with narcissistic personality disorder. However, the term may also refer to someone with narcissistic traits who has not been officially diagnosed with any mental health conditions. No divorce is easy, but narcissists often make the process of divorce much harder than it has to be. If you suspect that your spouse is a narcissist, your divorce may be frustrating and complicated. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Signs Your Spouse is a Narcissist

Many narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance. They usually need a great deal of attention and admiration from others. Individuals with narcissistic tendencies may also lack empathy or sympathy towards others. Many people married to narcissists are initially charmed by their partner’s words and behavior. Your spouse may have been kind and loving when you were dating but then changed once you got married. Narcissists are often intelligent and manipulative. They may use gaslighting, intimidation, and psychological tricks to get what they want.

Protecting Yourself Financially, Emotionally, and Legally

If the traits listed above describe your spouse, it is very important that you prioritize your own safety and wellbeing during your divorce. Work with a skilled divorce lawyer who has experience in high-conflict divorce cases. If your spouse becomes violent or engages in stalking behaviors, get an order of protection immediately. Divorce can take months or even years in some cases.  You may also want to petition the court for temporary relief orders for child support or spousal support, so you have the financial support you need during this time.

Next, take steps to protect yourself financially. Narcissists may hide assets or lie about finances to get what they want in a divorce. Make copies of your tax returns, bank statements, credit card statements, and other pertinent financial documents. Create an inventory of your valuable assets. Additionally, start working on your post-divorce budget.

Finally, make sure to take care of yourself. Many people who have been married to narcissists for years have forgotten how to prioritize their own needs. Spend time with people you love and engage in activities and hobbies that are enjoyable to you. It may also be a good idea to seek professional support from a therapist or counselor.

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Lawyer

The Wheaton divorce attorneys at Davi Law Group understand how difficult it can be to divorce someone who is selfish and manipulative. We are committed to helping you through this difficult time. Call 630-657-5052 for a free, confidential consultation.

Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201605/13-essential-tips-if-you-are-divorcing-narcissist

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/am-i-dating-a-narcissist