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Tips for Dealing with a Vengeful Spouse During an Illinois Divorce

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Wheaton divorce lawyersDivorce tends to go smoother when both parties are focused on ending things amicably. Unfortunately, the end of a marriage can stir up a number of strong, negative feelings (resentment, anger, rejection, etc.), which may cause some individuals to act out in ways that hurt the other party. What happens when they seem to be more focused on “getting even” than ending things in a peaceful manner, and how can you mitigate against the potential issues that may arise from their vengeful ways? The following information explains, and it provides details on how the assistance of a seasoned divorce attorney can help improve the final outcome of your Illinois divorce. 

Communicating with a Vengeful Spouse

One of the more difficult (but effective) ways that you can minimize conflict in a divorce is to change how you communicate with your spouse. Rather than engaging in conversations over the phone or in-person, consider switching to a written form of communication (text or email). Do not respond to baiting or hostile comments; they are nothing more than tactics to draw you in. Also, you should limit your responses to no more than one email or one set of text messages a day (even if your spouse sends you 20). Keep your language professional, and distance yourself from any conversation that is not directly related to your divorce or children. 

Establishing and Maintaining New Boundaries

During your marriage, you had a “role.” Perhaps you were the people pleaser, and you did everything possible to make your spouse happy and comfortable. Maybe you were the one that handled all the difficult “adult” tasks, such as taking the kids to the doctor and making sure the bills were paid. Now that you are divorcing your spouse, it is time to rethink and redefine your role. 

If you have children, you and your spouse are forever co-parents. If not, you have no further obligation to your spouse once the divorce has been finalized (other than, perhaps, alimony, temporary insurance coverage, and their share of the settlement). Do not feel obligated to continue fixing things for your spouse. Instead, establish and maintain new boundaries to protect both yourself and your children from the destructive behavior of a vengeful spouse. 

Our DuPage County Divorce Lawyers Can Help

Vengeful spouses can be unpredictable, even when you take precautions. Add an extra layer of protection against any negative consequences that may arise. Contact the DuPage County divorce lawyers at Davi Law Group, LLC. Seasoned and committed to your best interests, we aggressively pursue the most favorable outcome in every case. Call 630-580-6373 and schedule your free initial consultation today. 


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